Fluency Hysteria

Hey Ya!

Few days ago, I read a wonderful blog post titled “Overcoming Stuttering” by my friend, Pam Mertz (@stutterrockstar). It’s a good analysis on how kids and teens could be programmed by the “I-overcame-my-stuttering” hogwash of the “media-made” famous people. And, I couldn’t disagree. It’s not only about kids & adolescence, even many adult stutterers fall prey for these kinda stuffs.

Stuttering Depiciton

See, I don’t have any vendetta against the famous people whether they are stutterers or not. I admire them for their triumphs and victories. They motivate and inspire us to achieve against insurmountable odds; which is brilliant. But when it comes to “fluent speech”, is it possible? How many of the stutterers know that “fluent speech” is really a wrong goal and there is no scientific evidence to make it possible. It’s like climbing the ladder when it is actually leaning on the wrong wall. On the other hand, when fluent speech is the norm, the minds of stutterers undergo lots of pain and agony in regards with their speech. They automatically start to buy in to these kinds of false-hopes of fluent speech. And, it’s understandable.

How much ever I criticize the “fluent speech” notion, there is a part in me which yearns for the same. I enjoyed a great childhood and teenage, good education, great parents and siblings, wonderful family etc. Now, when all my carefree years are over and I hit the job market, it’s pretty daunting and I feel the pain. Apart from my qualifications, skills and experiences I understand that my stutter plays a pivotal role in the interview process. And at this time, I feel the pain about my speech impediment and think “Could this be the reason for my rejections?”

In spite all the negativity and put-downs, my stuttering actually made me an optimistic and a happy dude. I equate stuttering to the idea of “fate”. We all do that. When we achieve something, we say “I did it”. And, when we screw up, we say “Sometimes, Life Sucks!!!” and move on. Similarly, when we start to accept ourselves how we are and move forward. We get a life of abundance were we barely notice we stutter. (Unless, some dimwit points us! :P)

Finally, I too share my friend Pam’s concerns on getting out celebrities to talk about their successes with their stutters and not by giving an illusion that they succeeded by overcoming stuttering. I promise, I will never do that. 😉

PS: I really didn’t know what title to be given for this blog post. I used this title because I think it summarizes the mental agony & hysteria that surrounds fluent speech among the stuttering clan; which in reality, pretty difficult to be established. I hope I have done justice in relating the blog post with the title.

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9 responses to “Fluency Hysteria

  1. Well, of course I loved this. You agreed with me. Seriously though, all of us on our twitter group should get together and design a poster celebrating us ordinary people leading good lives while stuttering everyday. That would send the right message to kids.
    And I agree with you about the pain thing, my friend (twitter.com/ridwan326). Stuttering causes us pain, no doubt about it. But walking through pain makes us better and stronger, and prepares us for whatever comes next.Maybe your stuttering is really the reason you have not been offered a job yet. But then, you don’t want to work at an intolerant place anyway.
    There is a place for pain in our lives. There is bigger place for the love and support we find by sharing ourselves – all of ourselves – with each other and the world. Great post, and perfect title.

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    • Glad you liked it. 🙂

      I understand why the media gives a lotta coverage to these kinda celebrities. Bottom line, it sells!!! Period!

      To some extent, It’s OK to cash in their limelight. But, we gotta educate them and fellow stutterers that it’s OK to accept the stutter. It takes a lotta strength. And, it’s worth it!!!

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  2. wow ,you have such a great way of getting your point across and a valid one at that,as do you Pam.
    Although i often think that the media focas in on something like stuttering of celebraties in the hope that when interviewed they might just slip up and give more power to the story .
    Hope i make sense ….
    lisa xx

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    • haha, I get it. It’s like fishing for some more “information”, eh? 😀

      Although, I don’t take celeb gossips or interviews too seriously. But, It’s kinda fun to read gossips. LOL(N) 😀

      By the way, Thanks a ton for the compliments. 🙂

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  3. JAzakAllah Ridwan, well said, Although I may not understand what you may think or go through but I did get an idea from your blog post.

    Hope it doesn’t get in your way…and I agree with what you said, that success doesnt only come when youg et “over” it, and itis like a goal for people to overcome it… if someone cannot, they can achieve their goals too.

    My husband stuttured a little when we amrried and I think sometimes he still does…so i can understand it just a little.

    Oh and Prophet Moosa Alaihissalam ( Moses) had a stutter too.

    Although his brother didnt have one and he had one, he was the one who led the Isrealites.

    Cheers.

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    • You wrote: success doesnt only come when youg et “over” it, and itis like a goal for people to overcome it… if someone cannot, they can achieve their goals too.

      Couldn’t agree more! That’s what I wanted to convey. Many stutterers think they are beaten up by their stutter. But, what they forget to focus are the successes they have achieved in spite of their stuttering.

      Wow. Your husband too stutters. That’s new to me! LOL. Do convey my salaams and regards to him. 🙂

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  4. Wa alaikum Assalam ,

    i think his is more related to . nervousness? Im not sure but it has reduced itself a lot…

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  5. Hi,

    Thank you for the great quality of your blog, each time i come here, i’m amazed.

    black hattitude.

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  6. We all do that. When we achieve something, we say “I did it”. And, when we screw up, we say “Sometimes, Life Sucks!!!” and move on. Similarly, when we start to accept ourselves how we are and move forward.

    >> loved these lines !! 🙂

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